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✁  Format Kindle Download [ How To Win Friends and Influence People (English Edition) ] For Free ͬ By Dale Carnegie ᾯ ✁ Format Kindle Download [ How To Win Friends and Influence People (English Edition) ] For Free ͬ By Dale Carnegie ᾯ This grandfather of all people skills books was first published in 1937 It was an overnight hit, eventually selling 15 million copies How to Win Friends and Influence People is just as useful today as it was when it was first published, because Dale Carnegie had an understanding of human nature that will never be outdated Financial success, Carnegie believed, is due 15 percent to professional knowledge and 85 percent to the ability to express ideas, to assume leadership, and to arouse enthusiasm among people He teaches these skills through underlying principles of dealing with people so that they feel important and appreciated He also emphasizes fundamental techniques for handling people without making them feel manipulated Carnegie says you can make someone want to do what you want them to by seeing the situation from the other person s point of view and arousing in the other person an eager want You learn how to make people like you, win people over to your way of thinking, and change people without causing offense or arousing resentment For instance, let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers, and talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person Carnegie illustrates his points with anecdotes of historical figures, leaders of the business world, and everyday folks Joan PriceChapter 1If You Want to Gather Honey, Don t Kick Over the BeehiveOn May 7, 1931, the most sensational manhunt New York City had ever known had come to its climax After weeks of search, Two Gun Crowley the killer, the gunman who didn t smoke or drink was at bay, trapped in his sweetheart s apartment on West End Avenue.One hundred and fifty policemen and detectives laid siege to his top floor hideaway They chopped holes in the roof they tried to smoke out Crowley, the cop killer, with tear gas Then they mounted their machine guns on surrounding buildings, and for than an hour one of New York s fine residential areas reverberated with the crack of pistol fire and the rat tat tat of machine guns Crowley, crouching behind an overstuffed chair, fired incessantly at the police Ten thousand excited people watched the battle Nothing like it had ever been seen before on the sidewalks of New York.When Crowley was captured, Police Commissioner E P Mulrooney declared that the two gun desperado was one of the most dangerous criminals ever encountered in the history of New York He will kill, said the Commissioner, at the drop of a feather.But how did Two Gun Crowley regard himself We know, because while the police were firing into his apartment, he wrote a letter addressed To whom it may concern And, as he wrote, the blood flowing from his wounds left a crimson trail on the paper In his letter Crowley said Under my coat is a weary heart, but a kind one one that would do nobody any harm.A short time before this, Crowley had been having a necking party with his girl friend on a country road out on Long Island Suddenly a policeman walked up to the car and said Let me see your license.Without saying a word, Crowley drew his gun and cut the policeman down with a shower of lead As the dying officer fell, Crowley leaped out of the car, grabbed the officer s revolver, and fired another bullet into the prostrate body And that was the killer who said Under my coat is a weary heart, but a kind one one that would do nobody any harm.Crowley was sentenced to the electric chair When he arrived at the death house in Sing Sing, did he say, This is what I get for killing people No, he said This is what I get for defending myself.The point of the story is this Two Gun Crowley didn t blame himself for anything.Is that an unusual attitude among criminals If you think so, listen to this I have spent the best years of my life giving people the lighter pleasures, helping them have a good time, and all I get is abuse, the existence of a hunted man.That s Al Capone speaking Yes, America s most notorious Public Enemy the most sinister gang leader who ever shot up Chicago Capone didn t condemn himself He actually regarded himself as a public benefactor an unappreciated and misunderstood public benefactor.And so did Dutch Schultz before he crumpled up under gangster bullets in Newark Dutch Schultz, one of New York s most notorious rats, said in a newspaper interview that he was a public benefactor And he believed it.I have had some interesting correspondence with Lewis Lawes, who was warden of New York s infamous Sing Sing prison for many years, on this subject, and he declared that few of the criminals in Sing Sing regard themselves as bad men They are just as human as you and I So they rationalize, they explain They can tell you why they had to crack a safe or be quick on the trigger finger Most of them attempt by a form of reasoning, fallacious or logical, to justify their antisocial acts even to themselves, consequently stoutly maintaining that they should never have been imprisoned at all.If Al Capone, Two Gun Crowley, Dutch Schultz, and the desperate men and women behind prison walls don t blame themselves for anything what about the people with whom you and I come in contact John Wanamaker, founder of the stores that bear his name, once confessed I learned thirty years ago that it is foolish to scold I have enough trouble overcoming my own limitations without fretting over the fact that God has not seen fit to distribute evenly the gift of intelligence.Wanamaker learned this lesson early, but I personally had to blunder through this old world for a third of a century before it even began to dawn upon me that ninety nine times out of a hundred, people don t criticize themselves for anything, no matter how wrong it may be.Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.B F Skinner, the world famous psychologist, proved through his experiments that an animal rewarded for good behavior will learn much rapidly and retain what it learns far effectively than an animal punished for bad behavior Later studies have shown that the same applies to humans By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes and often incur resentment.Hans Selye, another great psychologist, said, As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation.The resentment that criticism engenders can demoralize employees, family members and friends, and still not correct the situation that has been condemned.George B Johnston of Enid, Oklahoma, is the safety coordinator for an engineering company One of his responsibilities is to see that employees wear their hard hats whenever they are on the job in the field He reported that whenever he came across workers who were not wearing hard hats, he would tell them with a lot of authority of the regulation and that they must comply As a result he would get sullen acceptance, and often after he left, the workers would remove the hats.He decided to try a different approach The next time he found some of the workers not wearing their hard hat, he asked if the hats were uncomfortable or did not fit properly Then he reminded the men in a pleasant tone of voice that the hat was designed to protect them from injury and suggested that it always be worn on the job The result was increased compliance with the regulation with no resentment or emotional upset.You will find examples of the futility of criticism bristling on a thousand pages of history Take, for example, the famous quarrel between Theodore Roosevelt and President Taft a quarrel that split the Republican party, put Woodrow Wilson in the White House, and wrote bold, luminous lines across the First World War and altered the flow of history Let s review the facts quickly When Theodore Roosevelt stepped out of the White House in 1908, he supported Taft, who was elected President Then Theodore Roosevelt went off to Africa to shoot lions When he returned, he exploded He denounced Taft for his conservatism, tried to secure the nomination for a third term himself, formed the Bull Moose party, and all but demolished the G.O.P In the election that followed, William Howard Taft and the Republican party carried only two states Vermont and Utah The most disastrous defeat the party had ever known.Theodore Roosevelt blamed Taft, but did President Taft blame himself Of course not With tears in his eyes, Taft said I don t see how I could have done any differently from what I have.Who was to blame Roosevelt or Taft Frankly, I don t know, and I don t care The point I am trying to make is that all of Theodore Roosevelt s criticism didn t persuade Taft that he was wrong It merely made Taft strive to justify himself and to reiterate with tears in his eyes I don t see how I could have done any differently from what I have.Or, take the Teapot Dome oil scandal It kept the newspapers ringing with indignation in the early 1920s It rocked the nation Within the memory of living men, nothing like it had ever happened before in American public life Here are the bare facts of the scandal Albert B Fall, secretary of the interior in Harding s cabinet, was entrusted with the leasing of government oil reserves at Elk Hill and Teapot Dome oil reserves that had been set aside for the future use of the Navy Did Secretary Fall permit competitive bidding No sir, He handed the fat, juicy contract outright to his friend Edward L Doheny And what did Doheny do He gave Secretary Fall what he was pleased to call a loan of one hundred thousand dollars Then, in a high handed manner, Secretary Fall ordered United States Marines into the district to drive off competitors whose adjacent wells were sapping oil out of the Elk Hill reserves These competitors, driven off their ground at the ends of guns and bayonets, rushed into court and blew the lid off the Teapot Dome scandal A stench arose so vile that it ruined the Harding Administration, nauseated an entire nation, threatened to wreck the Republican party, and put Albert B Fall behind prison bars.Fall was condemned viciously condemned as few men in public life have ever been Did he repent Never Years later Herbert Hoover intimated in a public speech that President Harding s death had been due to mental anxiety and worry because a friend had betrayed him When Mrs Fall heard that, she sprang from her chair, she wept, she shook her fists at fate and screamed What Harding betrayed by Fall No My husband never betrayed anyone This whole house full of gold would not tempt my husband to do wrong He is the one who has been betrayed and led to the slaughter and crucified.There you are human nature in action, wrongdoers, blaming everybody but themselves We are all like that So when you and I are tempted to criticize someone tomorrow, let s remember Al Capone, Two Gun Crowley and Albert Fall Let s realize that criticisms are like homing pigeons They always return home Let s realize that the person we are going to correct and condemn will probably justify himself or herself, and condemn us in return or, like the gentle Taft, will say I don t see how I could have done any differently from what I have.On the morning of April 15, 1865, Abraham Lincoln lay dying in a hall bedroom of a cheap lodging house directly across the street from Ford s Theater, where John Wilkes Booth had shot him Lincoln s long body lay stretched diagonally across a sagging bed that was too short for him A cheap reproduction of Rosa Bonheur s famous painting The Horse Fair hung above the bed, and a dismal gas jet flickered yellow light.As Lincoln lay dying, Secretary of War Stanton said, There lies the most perfect ruler of men that the world has ever seen.What was the secret of Lincoln s success in dealing with people I studied the life of Abraham Lincoln for ten years and devoted all of three years to writing and rewriting a book entitled Lincoln the Unknown I believe I have made as detailed and exhaustive a study of Lincoln s personality and home life as it is possible for any being to make I made a special study of Lincoln s method of dealing with people Did he indulge in criticism Oh, yes As a young man in the Pigeon Creek Valley of Indiana, he not only criticized but he wrote letters and poems ridiculing people and dropped these letters on the country roads where they were sure to be found One of these letters aroused resentments that burned for a lifetime.Even after Lincoln had become a practicing lawyer in Springfield, Illinois, he attacked his opponents openly in letters published in the newspapers But he did this just once too often.In the autumn of 1842 he ridiculed a vain, pugnacious politician by the name of James Shields Lincoln lampooned him through an anonymous letter published in the Springfield Journal The town roared with laughter Shields, sensitive and proud, boiled with indignation He found out who wrote the letter, leaped on his horse, started after Lincoln, and challenged him to fight a duel Lincoln didn t want to fight He was opposed to dueling, but he couldn t get out of it and save his honor He was given the choice of weapons Since he had very long arms, he chose cavalry broadswords and took lessons in sword fighting from a West Point graduate and, on the appointed day, he and Shields met on a sandbar in the Mississippi River, prepared to fight to the death but, at the last minute, their seconds interrupted and stopped the duel.That was the most lurid personal incident in Lincoln s life It taught him an invaluable lesson in the art of dealing with people Never again did he write an insulting letter Never again did he ridicule anyone And from that time on, he almost never criticized anybody for anything.Time after time, during the Civil War, Lincoln put a new general at the head of the Army of the Potomac, and each one in turn McClellan, Pope, Burnside, Hooker, Meade blundered tragically and drove Lincoln to pacing the floor in despair Half the nation savagely condemned these incompetent generals, but Lincoln, with malice toward none, with charity for all, held his peace One of his favorite quotations was Judge not, that ye be not judged.And when Mrs Lincoln and others spoke harshly of the southern people, Lincoln replied Don t criticize them they are just what we would be under similar circumstances.Yet if any man ever had occasion to criticize, surely it was Lincoln Let s take just one illustration The Battle of Gettysburg was fought during the first three days of July 1863 During the night of July 4, Lee began to retreat southward while storm clouds deluged the country with rain When Lee reached the Potomac with his defeated army, he found a swollen, impassable river in front of him, and a victorious Union Army behind him Lee was in a trap He couldn t escape Lincoln saw that Here was a golden, heaven sent opportunity the opportunity to capture Lee s army and end the war immediately So, with a surge of high hope, Lincoln ordered Meade not to call a council of war but to attack Lee immediately Lincoln telegraphed his orders and then sent a special messenger to Meade demanding immediate action.And what did General Meade do He did the very opposite of what he was told to do He called a council of war in direct violation of Lincoln s orders He hesitated He procrastinated He telegraphed all manner of excuses He refused point blank to attack Lee Finally the waters receded and Lee escaped over the Potomac with his forces.Lincoln was furious What does this mean Lincoln cried to his son Robert Great God What does this mean We had them within our grasp, and had only to stretch forth our hands and they were ours yet nothing that I could say or do could make the army move Under the circumstances, almost any general could have defeated Lee If I had gone up there, I could have whipped him myself.In bitter disappointment, Lincoln sat down and wrote Meade this letter And remember, at this period of his life Lincoln was extremely conservative and restrained in his phraseology So this letter coming from Lincoln in 1863 was tantamount to the severest rebuke.My dear General,I do not believe you appreciate the magnitude of the misfortune involved in Lee s escape He was within our easy grasp, and to have closed upon him would, in connection with our other late successes, have ended the war As it is, the war will be prolonged indefinitely If you could not safely attack Lee last Monday, how can you possibly do so south of the river, when you can take with you very few no than two thirds of the force you then had in hand It would be unreasonable to expect and I do not expect that you can now effect much Your golden opportunity is gone, and I am distressed immeasurably because of it.What do you suppose Meade did when he read the letter Meade never saw that letter Lincoln never mailed it It was found among his papers after his death.My guess is and this is only a guess that after writing that letter, Lincoln looked out of the window and said to himself, Just a minute Maybe I ought not to be so hasty It is easy enough for me to sit here in the quiet of the White House and order Meade to attack but if I had been up at Gettysburg, and if I had seen as much blood as Meade has seen during the last week, and if my ears had been pierced with the screams and shrieks of the wounded and dying, maybe I wouldn t be so anxious to attack either If I had Meade s timid temperament, perhaps I would have done just what he had done Anyhow, it is water under the bridge now If I send this letter, it will relieve my feelings, but it will make Meade try to justify himself It will make him condemn me It will arouse hard feelings, impair all his further usefulness as a commander, and perhaps force him to resign from the army.So, as I have already said, Lincoln put the letter aside, for he had learned by bitter experience that sharp criticisms and rebukes almost invariably end in futility.Theodore Roosevelt said that when he, as President, was confronted with a perplexing problem, he used to lean back and look up at a large painting of Lincoln which hung above his desk in the White House and ask himself, What would Lincoln do if he were in my shoes How would he solve this problem The next time we are tempted to admonish somebody, let s pull a five dollar bill out of our pocket, look at Lincoln s picture on the bill, and ask, How would Lincoln handle this problem if he had it Mark Twain lost his temper occasionally and wrote letters that turned the paper brown For example, he once wrote to a man who had aroused his ire The thing for you is a burial permit You have only to speak and I will see that you get it On another occasion he wrote to an editor about a proofreader s attempts to improve my spelling and punctuation He ordered Set the matter according to my copy hereafter and see that the proofreader retains his suggestions in the mush of his decayed brain.rdThe writing of these stinging letters made Mark Twain feel better They allowed him to blow off steam, and the letters didn t do any real harm, because Mark Twain s wife secretly lifted them out of the mail They were never sent.Do you know someone you would like to change and regulate and improve Good That is fine I am all in favor of it But why not begin on yourself From a purely selfish standpoint, that is a lot profitable than trying to improve others yes, and a lot less dangerous Don t complain about the snow on your neighbor s roof, said Confucius, when your own doorstep is unclean.When I was still young and trying hard to impress people, I wrote a foolish letter to Richard Harding Davis, an author who once loomed large on the literary horizon of America I was preparing a magazine article about authors, and I asked Davis to tell me about his method of work A few weeks earlier, I had received a letter from someone with this notation at the bottom Dictated but not read I was quite impressed I felt that the writer must be very big and busy and important I wasn t the slightest bit busy, but I was eager to make an impression on Richard Harding Davis, so I ended my short note with the words Dictated but not read.He never troubled to answer the letter He simply returned it to me with this scribbled across the bottom Your bad manners are exceeded only by your bad manners True, I had blundered, and perhaps I deserved this rebuke But, being human, I resented it I resented it so sharply that when I read of the death of Richard Harding Davis ten years later, the one thought that still persisted in my mind I am ashamed to admit was the hurt he had given me.If you and I want to stir up a resentment tomorrow that may rankle across the decades and endure until death, just let us indulge in a little stinging criticism no matter how certain we are that it is justified.When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.Bitter criticism caused the sensitive Thomas Hardy, one of the finest novelists ever to enrich English literature, to give up forever the writing of fiction Criticism drove Thomas Chatterton, the English poet, to suicide.Benjamin Franklin, tactless in his youth, became so diplomatic, so adroit at handling people, that he was made American Ambassador to France The secret of his success I will speak ill of no man, he said, and speak all the good I know of everybody.Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools do.But it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.A great man shows his greatness, said Carlyle, by the way he treats little men.Bob Hoover, a famous test pilot and frequent performer at air shows, was returning to his home in Los Angeles from an air show in San Diego As described in the magazine Flight Operations, at three hundred feet in the air, both engines suddenly stopped By deft maneuvering he managed to land the plane, but it was badly damaged although nobody was hurt.Hoover s first act after the emergency landing was to inspect the airplane s fuel Just as he suspected, the World War II propeller plane he had been flying had been fueled with jet fuel rather than gasoline.Upon returning to the airport, he asked to see the mechanic who had serviced his airplane The young man was sick with the agony of his mistake Tears streamed down his face as Hoover approached He had just caused the loss of a very expensive plane and could have caused the loss of three lives as well.You can imagine Hoover s anger One could anticipate the tongue lashing that this proud and precise pilot would unleash for that carelessness But Hoover didn t scold the mechanic he didn t even criticize him Instead, he put his big arm around the man s shoulder and said, To show you I m sure that you ll never do this again, I want you to service my F 51 tomorrow.Often parents are tempted to criticize their children You would expect me to say don t But I will not I am merely going to say, Before you criticize them, read one of the classics of American journalism, Father Forgets It originally appeared as an editorial in the People s Home Journal We are reprinting it here with the author s permission, as condensed in the Reader s Digest Father Forgets is one of those little pieces which dashed off in a moment of sincere feeling strikes an echoing chord in so many readers as to become a perennial reprint favorite Since its first appearance, Father Forgets has been reproduced, writes the author, W Livingston Larned, in hundreds of magazines and house organs, and in newspapers the country over It has been reprinted almost as extensively in many foreign languages I have given personal permission to thousands who wished to read it from school, church, and lecture platforms It has been on the air on countless occasions and programs Oddly enough, college periodicals have used it, and high school magazines Sometimes a little piece seems mysteriously to click This one certainly did.FATHER FORGETSW Livingston LarnedListen, son I am saying this as you lie asleep, one little paw crumpled under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on your damp forehead I have stolen into your room alone Just a few minutes ago, as I sat reading my paper in the library, a stifling wave of remorse swept over me Guiltily I came to your bedside.There are the things I was thinking, son I had been cross to you I scolded you as you were dressing for school because you gave your face merely a dab with a towel I took you to task for not cleaning your shoes I called out angrily when you threw some of your things on the floor.At breakfast I found fault, too You spilled things You gulped down your food You put your elbows on the table You spread butter too thick on your bread And as you started off to play and I made for my train, you turned and waved a hand and called, Goodbye, Daddy and I frowned, and said in reply, Hold your shoulders back Then it began all over again in the late afternoon As I came up the road I spied you, down on your knees, playing marbles There were holes in your stockings I humiliated you before your boyfriends by marching you ahead of me to the house Stockings were expensive and if you had to buy them you would be careful Imagine that, son, from a father Do you remember, later, when I was reading in the library, how you came in timidly, with a sort of hurt look in your eyes When I glanced up over my paper, impatient at the interruption, you hesitated at the door What is it you want I snapped.You said nothing, but ran across in one tempestuous plunge, and threw your arms around my neck and kissed me, and your small arms tightened with an affection that God had set blooming in your heart and which even neglect could not wither And then you were gone, pattering up the stairs.Well, son, it was shortly afterwards that my paper slipped from my hands and a terrible sickening fear came over me What has habit been doing to me The habit of finding fault, of reprimanding this was my reward to you for being a boy It was not that I did not love you it was that I expected too much of youth I was measuring you by the yardstick of my own years.And there was so much that was good and fine and true in your character The little heart of you was as big as the dawn itself over the wide hills This was shown by your spontaneous impulse to rush in and kiss me good night Nothing else matters tonight, son I have come to your bedside in the darkness, and I have knelt there, ashamed It is a feeble atonement I know you would not understand these things if I told them to you during your waking hours But tomorrow I will be a real daddy I will chum with you, and suffer when you suffer, and laugh when you laugh I will bite my tongue when impatient words come I will keep saying as if it were a ritual He is nothing but a boy a little boy I am afraid I have visualized you as a man Yet as I see you now, son, crumpled and weary in your cot, I see that you are still a baby Yesterday you were in your mother s arms, your head on her shoulder I have asked too much, too much.Instead of condemning people, let s try to understand them Let s try to figure out why they do what they do That s a lot profitable and intriguing than criticism and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness To know all is to forgive all.As Dr Johnson said God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days..Why should you and I Principle 1Don t criticize, condemn or complain.Copyright copy 1936 by Dale Carnegie Ways to Win at Life wikiHow Win Definition of by Merriam Webster We tried 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